The Happy Go Lucky Bachelor.

The professor in class asked a question about the patience displayed by the main character of the Shawshank Redemption movie Andrew "Andy" Dufresne who is sentenced to two consecutive life sentences at Shawshank State Penitentiary in Maine for murdering his wife and her lover.

The question being to put ourselves in his place and describe the Patience needed to make it.

Now I would like to point out that for one, Andy’s patience ran out as he eventually escaped after realizing the limits and futility of his own patience, second you do not have to imagine what it would be like to live through this since in real life there are hundreds of former prisoners who have been wrongly convicted only to be released later after the truth inevitably emerges from the darkness.

They are experts in the matter and could give most Buddhist Monks a run for their money on what it means to be patient.

I have watched these men, through the media, as they embrace their freedom with a calm that to me is so shocking that it borders on terrifying.

How does someone maintain their sanity after pleading, screaming, bargaining for anyone to listen that they are innocent?

How do you control of your emotions, and achieve a level of peace KNOWING that you are paying for a crime you did not commit?

All the while caged like an animal surrounded by men who have committed REAL crimes against their fellow man and who have built a culture in those prisons were the weak are preyed upon and the solution seems to be to become a predator.

How do you not let hate eat away at your soul and lash violently out at the world trying to make it feel the pain you suffered with all those years stuck in time as the rest of the world kept turning, not just leaving you behind but forgetting about your existence all together?

How do you not let the stress kill you, or for that matter how do you not kill yourself?

I can only speculate on what it takes, because I have never walked in those shoes and I pray that I never do.

Hate would be my close friend in there, my confidant, and my support.

The only thing I can think of is that these men have consciously or sub-consciously practiced a combination of mediation, denial, hope and faith.

Meditation to clear the mind of all distractions and allowing for focus.

The denial of the despair that creeps into you and allows you to accept your fate, abandoning the future.

Hope that your freedom will be given back to you.

And finally, faith, faith in the world that it will open its eyes and see your innocence.

This is what I believe will allow them to ease the stress of their minds and hold on to their sanity and eventually leave prison still human and maybe better off than what they were before.

That is what I think it would take to come out of their alive. Alive and at peace with not only yourself but those around you and more importantly those who are responsible for your incarceration.

I cannot say that I am that type of person who would have the types of tools to make it out. But seeing men like the ones who did make it out gives me hope at the very least.

"La Maison de Joi" 1975





"Ansonia" 1953





"Street Dance" 1953





"Le Cavalier Fier" 1961

*****Warning: The Ability For Critical Thinking Required Before Reading This Post. The Slow Witted Need Not Continue.*****




*****Playboy Model Nicole Naraine Talks About Her Addiction To Sex & Masturbation!



Couldn't get out of bed all day cause your hands were stuck?

Couldn't eat cause you were too busy drowning the little man in the boat?

Yeah......I'm going to go ahead and call bullshit on this one.


Sex addiction is real, but I'll be damned if this is her problem, I'm think more like little girl over here wants some attention now that her 15 minutes of fame has dropped under 60 seconds.


**** Things I am grateful for.......

1- Lactose Free Milk,




I can eat cereal for breakfast, lunch and dinner......not that I would.......but I can if I wanted to.......

2- 120 GB Ipod Classic $50,


Ipod Nano $25,




PlayStation 3 with 2 joysticks, 6 games $300,




living in the hood wear these street deals go down PRICELESS.



****What the Bozak?!

4 straight losses?!



This whole damn team needs to be suspended, I have no words for that sorry ass secondary, and Eli's "I got mine" punk ass right now.


**** For real I need the Saints to go ahead and take that L with the quickness this up coming month.



I am about tired of the Saints fans all of a sudden coming out of their holes, were were y'all punk asses last year?!

WE ALL KNOW you will not go undefeated, let alone go to the Superbowl.

Lets get the heart break over with.

***On a lighter note HOW ABOUT THOSE YANKEES!!!!!



Yes go ahead and warm your selves in our glorious light......feel it......it's OK.....plenty of room on the wagon......go ahead and rest your weary feet......must be hard to root for teams that disappoint you year after year...sssshhhh....it's OK daddy is here now.

I like to think that there is a reasonable explanation for everything.

There are two sides to every story.

Break down complex problems into small pieces and start with the simplest one first and life gets much clearer I think.

There are no mysteries just problems waiting to be solved.

But every now and than you come across some nasty looking piece of logic left in the middle of the road by some fucked up nut that makes you stop and say what the hell is this?

Case in point I was outside over at a friend's place talking when one of her neighbors drove up got out of her car with her boyfriend and kid and went to her apartment.

My friend remarked how she couldn't stand the woman, now before I could stop my self I asked why, seeing how the last time I was around they were very friendly with each other.

Apparently they had a falling out.

Observation: What I have noticed, and some of you might want to take this as a warning, is that when women fall out with each other, or with men for that matter, every little dirty secret that they shared with each other gets thrown out in the street.

She than tells me that this woman is,

1- divorced,

2- former stripper,

3- bisexual but is currently dating this one dude.

4- she is 37 he is 25,

5- he despite being younger is controlling in the relationship and demands that she be around at all times when he is not out doing something.

6- she has herpes which she contracted from her ex husband.

I stopped her on the last part, she had me hooked so I asked the obvious questions, like does the current boyfriend know?

Yes he knows or rather he was informed by her after they slept together a few times.

Her rational for this is that she was not having an out break, they only had sex with out a condom twice and she regularly takes her medication for it.

Here is a little bit of info for you, some one who has herpes simplex viruses type 1 or 2 can transmit the virus to another person with out having out break.

A condom will not save you and the medication does not cure you.



So dude gets tested and comes out negative, but get this......he comes back to her.


I thought I was hearing things but hell I just saw him get out the car with her so I guess so.

I don't know maybe it's just me......

I could be overly sensitive.......

Maybe I am just not that opened minded.......

I just cant see my self running back into the arms of a woman who gave me an STI......

No, hell no, especially after I lucked out and tested negative.

When I worked in a clinic I came across all sorts of diseases that would make the CDC blow up, and I never blinked an eye.

But herpes was the one thing I just couldn't be around, it shook the hell out of me, made my skin crawl.

I can deal with HIV, full blown AIDS, Swine Flu, walking pneumonia, bacterial meningitis you name it.

Not herpes.

So at this point I am not even thinking of her trifling ass I'm think about his trifling ass and what the hell is running through his head.


And I don't want to hear that love mess either.


Sharing a disease might be the ultimate expression of love from what ever planet these two are from but I would rather take a bullet for you instead.

That is just twisted.

Now I know there are people who are desperate for companionship, they need a person, any type of person, to make them feel whole.

But come the hell on man, herpes?


Y'all nasty as hell out here man.

Members of Austrian artist Willi Dorner's "Bodies in Urban Spaces" performing arts troupe squeeze themselves into the entrance to a house in London.

Growing up in New York there was some these that was just mandatory if you were a true black man.

You had to know how to play ball.

You had to have a ball cap.

You had to be arrogant as hell.

You have to have a PhD in smack talking.

But most of all you had to have at least one pair of Timbs.

And if it was just one pair it had to be the standard honey wheat.



It was part of the New York uniform, anything else was looked down upon, that included those high end brands like the Polo boots.


Or the ones that targeted the urban market like Lugz.


They had to be Timbs, didn't matter that the company didn't want black men wearing their boots for what ever reason.

That just gave us the green light to steal their shit, but get it we would.

But that was back in the day, today it is rare to see Timbs on the streets, I have no idea why, I stopped buying them awhile ago for no specific reason so I am just now hearing about the decline in quality and it not being stylish any more.

But after reading this I am hoping for a come back.

From Haitian Internet:

The Timberland company and Haitian Hip Hop Singer Wyclef Jean are teaming up for a new collection of Timberland boots called "Timberland Earthkeepers Yele Haiti boots."



That's not all, The Timberland Earthkeeper line of will also include closing designed by children in Haiti. I watch a video of wake of himself promoting the new timberland yearly Haiti earth keeper line


Timberland Earthkeepers Yele Haiti boots We'll be available for men and women and kids.

For every pair of these boots sold, Timberland will donate $2 to the Yele Haiti foundation to support reforestation in Haiti.


The Timberland Earthkeepers Yele Haiti boots will be Available in the United States in November 2010 and globally by February 2010.

Now the cynic in me is saying this is the move of a company trying to slide it's way back into a market they took for granted a long time ago.

But this is a case were ends do justify the means, Haiti has a serious deforestaion problem that has contributed to flooding during hurricane season.

So this time I put away my side eye and give props to the Timberland and wyclef for giving a fuck.